A good friend of mine just recently got out of a long-term relationship and got thrown into the new, modern dating world. He was unpleasantly surprised at how weird the dating scene is nowadays, with apps like Tinder being one of the most popular ways to “hook up” and find dates. Being in the mid twenties, well past college years, and stuck in the same work environment for a while, made his circle of female acquaintances rather thin.
He said that after a couple of weeks of swiping left and right on Tinder, he didn’t seem to be getting a lot of matches, which made him almost give up, so he asked me for some tips. And while I’m not a womanizer or a Tinder guru, I could easily spot what he was doing wrong, so I basically told him about the two unspoken rules if you want to be successful on Tinder:
- Be attractive
- Don’t be unattractive
I’m kidding! I actually did give him some insight on how he could improve his “Tinder game”. His main problem were his pictures, and his appearance in them in general. He isn’t a bad looking guy at all, but the clothes he wears make him look fatter, and older than he actually is, so I had to lecture him on the importance of form-fitting clothes. Moreover, his style was somewhat outdated, so I introduced him to mens urban shirts, such as the Oxford shirts, which have been around for a long time, and they’ve stayed popular for a very good reason. So he went out to get himself a couple of form-fitting mens urban shirts.
After that, I told him to go home, shave and put on the new shirts he just bought, snap a few pictures and update his Tinder profile. Suffice to say, after a couple of days more swiping left and right, he started getting slightly more matches than before, and actually went on a couple of dates, some successful, others not so much.
I also noticed he changed his style a lot, and started abusing the power of form-fitting urban shirts. He started wearing them regularly at work, while hanging with us at the pub, and if I didn’t know better, I’d say he probably wore them to bed as well. I mean, I can’t really blame him, I’ve been pretty much doing the same for a while now. Who doesn’t like wearing comfortable and versatile clothes that make you fit in everywhere?